I heard you lost in your game today. It’s okay. Don’t beat yourself up because it wasn’t your fault. You know how it is in any competition—there can never be two winners. Well, in a basketball game, that is. No, your father won’t take it against you. He will understand. How do I know? I just do.
Practice. Practice some more. You know what they say about practicing.
Need a break? Go ahead. Take a breather. I know it’s crazy.
So what if you got the lowest score in your Mathematics test the other day? Did you not excel in your extemporaneous speech on Friday? Tell you what—I failed one too many times in college. Not convinced? Believe it. I spent six years in Engineering when I should have graduated in five. It’s tough, but I earned my diploma eventually. It’s a wonderful, wonderful feeling.
It’s okay. You can’t be the master of everything, anyway.
I found out that your girlfriend dumped you. Well, what do I say? Would you have done it yourself? I don’t think so. I know what it’s like to be left hanging.
It was ugly. Hurtful, even.
You’re still young. You have all the time in the world. Who knows, you will bump into your soul mate when you least expect it. When you do, cherish her. Treat her the way you want your mother or sister to be treated. For now, relax. Don’t find love for it will find you.
Why am I telling you these? Because I care. I’ve been there, done that. I want you to know that these failures don’t mean the end of the road. They are detours that lead you to something more beautiful. You just have to wait.
Don’t dwell on these negative thoughts because they will consume you before you even know it. Feed only on the good things that are happening around you. Smile often, laugh more.
Change the way you think.
Appreciate. Be grateful.
No one expects you to be the best. It’s enough that you become the best version of yourself.
When all else fails, pray.
Most importantly, I wish you better days.
—JRJM © 2012